Lately, I’ve been kind of quiet online. Or maybe it’d be more accurate to say I seemed to have fallen off the face of the Earth. 🙂
Where have I been and what have I been doing? I’m afraid the answer is as mundane and boring as it gets–I’ve been overwhelmed with work, and not the energizing fiction-writing kind, but the stressful day-job kind. It has, however, led me to an important epiphany:
I can’t do everything.
Something’s got to give, and I don’t want it to be either my fiction or my friends, on or offline.
It’s such a common problem these days–stretching ourselves too thin, trying to do everything, not setting boundaries or saying ‘no’ enough–that I feel kind of silly for not seeing it coming sooner. But it’s easier to spot in others, isn’t it? And so easy to tell yourself it’s just one other little thing to do, or one other week of craziness to get through.
Still, better late than never, eh? And once I reached the insight that, no, I can’t actually do everything by myself, it actually became much easier to go forward and formulate a plan. In my case, my day job, while interesting, is not the most important thing in my life, so ergo, I need to give it less priority–in short, I need to work less.
I’m not sure yet what path I’m going to take, moving forward–new job, new position, ways to delegate more–but I’m committed to making a change, and I’ve already begun taking baby steps in the right direction. It may take a while (because it takes time to scale down on commitments) but some time next year I fully intend to have carved out more peace for myself. And just the thought of that makes me feel happier already. 🙂
What about you? Have you reached the point where something had to give? How did you deal with the situation?