When something’s got to give


Lately, I’ve been kind of quiet online. Or maybe it’d be more accurate to say I seemed to have fallen off the face of the Earth. 🙂

Where have I been and what have I been doing? I’m afraid the answer is as mundane and boring as it gets–I’ve been overwhelmed with work, and not the energizing fiction-writing kind, but the stressful day-job kind. It has, however, led me to an important epiphany:

I can’t do everything.

Something’s got to give, and I don’t want it to be either my fiction or my friends, on or offline.

To do: everything
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It’s such a common problem these days–stretching ourselves too thin, trying to do everything, not setting boundaries or saying ‘no’ enough–that I feel kind of silly for not seeing it coming sooner. But it’s easier to spot in others, isn’t it? And so easy to tell yourself it’s just one other little thing to do, or one other week of craziness to get through.

Still, better late than never, eh? And once I reached the insight that, no, I can’t actually do everything by myself, it actually became much easier to go forward and formulate a plan. In my case, my day job, while interesting, is not the most important thing in my life, so ergo, I need to give it less priority–in short, I need to work less.

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I’m not sure yet what path I’m going to take, moving forward–new job, new position, ways to delegate more–but I’m committed to making a change, and I’ve already begun taking baby steps in the right direction. It may take a while (because it takes time to scale down on commitments) but some time next year I fully intend to have carved out more peace for myself. And just the thought of that makes me feel happier already. 🙂

What about you? Have you reached the point where something had to give? How did you deal with the situation?

5 thoughts on “When something’s got to give

  • November 4, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    Oh no, that’s not good. I’m being scarce on social media these days too, but I did check on you the other day, realizing you hadn’t tweeted or posted on FB. I am currently unpacking our shipment from the UK, which arrived last week. My house is chaos right now, which doesn’t make me happy, and when I’m not happy, it’s hard to settle down to write. So NaNo has been a real bust for me so far. I exhaust myself each day with unpacking and have nothing left over, but at least I know it will end. Good luck with your decisions and I hope you do find time to write. Social media can take a back seat.

    • November 5, 2014 at 6:56 am

      Thanks Kathryn! Work is a bit better this month, and I’ve begun sneaking in a bit of writing here and there, but it’s so glacially slow. I’ve got vacation coming up in December though–looking forward to recharging the batteries!

  • November 6, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    I find it difficult to keep up with social media. As authors, we start out doing it for platform and marketing reasons, but soon the interaction it spurs becomes a reward in and of itself. But soon we have too many blog posts to read, too many Twitter lists to follow, too many FB updates to catch. We have to be okay with letting some of it go. Easier said than done though.

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